Why Does The Abuse Continue?

Statistics show that 70% of the men who batter come from violent homes. The couple is caught in a cycle of abuse:

  • TENSION BUILDING
  • ACUTE BATTERING
  • CALM, LOVING, CONTRITE
  • (HONEYMOON STAGE)
  • TENSION BUILDING
  • ACUTE BATTERING
  • CALM, LOVING, CONTRITE
  • (HONEYMOON STAGE)
  • TENSION BUILDING 
 
The Power & Control Wheel below shows steps that perpetrators use to control their partners:

The longer the relationship, the more intense is the battering. After a time, the contrite stage is non-existent.